Evolution of wedding etiquette: change of times

Wedding Etiquette Changes

The Wedding Etiquette Evolution – Times Are Changing.

Weddings are very traditional ceremonies unifying two loving couples passed down from many generations back but it has undergone many phases of change leading up to the current modern times. Wedding etiquettes have evolved. This article explores the significant differences in wedding culture between old and modern times.

Wedding Etiquette Changes

Photography by Mick Cookson – Manchester photography.

Wedding bills for modern times are split between bride and groom’s families. Back in the days wedding day ceremony is paid for by the bride’s family while the groom settles the honeymoon cost. Survey shows that 47.6% bear wedding costs with parents while 42.5% settle the bills all by their own. Traditionally, grooms would have their best male friends or relatives doubling up as groomsmen while brides would have closest female friends as bridesmaids. Times change in this current day and age where groom and bride alike are free to choose whoever regardless of gender. It goes by the selection of closest friends or family member.

Making RSVP for the wedding day is much more convenient nowadays. Guests have various flexible options from calling to confirm of email a confirmation message. Many also turn to Facebook for RSVP procedures as a simple acknowledgment message will do. The hash tag is a popular feature to draw viewers to one single location.  Wedding hashtags do not exist until in recent years and it allows wedding guests to share their photos and allows for ease of tracking photos relevant to the topics created after the # symbol.

When it comes to wedding photos, there will always be a professional photographer arranged to cover the shoots throughout the wedding day. Wedding couples may have to explicitly request guests not to share photos on social platform media as to respect the photographer’s professional work. This has been termed “unplugged” wedding by observers. Cash is the new gift for modern wedding presents. A physical of the digital wishing well is set up to facilitate the collection of donations from guests which usually serve to cover honeymoon expenses or home deposits.

Congratulatory messages only pour in after the couples had changed their relationship status online. Some couples may prefer keeping their status private so holding off your congratulatory messages may be appropriate. Some prefer their treasured moments off social media. Relationship status would need to be changed to notify friends on your newlywed status. However there is no fixed timeline for this to be accomplished and it is up to individual preferences.

Wedding invites usually restricts to the invitee alone without their companion. Hence many refrain from asking for space for plus-ones. The wedding couple may have budgetary constraints or only cherishes the company of close friends. Wedding gifts can be presented after the wedding ceremony within a one-year timeframe. Usually, wedding gifts are handed over on the wedding reception day itself as it can be embarrassing showing up empty-handed. For those who prefer to delay a bit, fret not as you have up to 12 full months to prepare the best possible gift. A well-thought gift is better than a gift prepared in a hassle.

General Tips For Corporate And Business Head Shot Photos

Corporate And Business Photos General Tips

  • Please let us know your expectations and intentions for the photos. Let us know the type of look you want
  • Tell us where the photo will be used and how so we can make sure it is appropriate
  • Please be well rested and drink plenty of water to avoid bags under the eyes
  • Your face skin might not be at its best after drug or alcohol use the night before. Try not to drink or smoke before your shoot
  • Please be on time and try not to arrive more than 15 minutes early since we may or may not have other business clients scheduled before you
  • Please make sure call us if you are expecting to be late or arrive early

What To Wear On Your Shoot:

  • Please wear clothes that are comfortable to you and that make you look at your best
  • Ensure your jacket and the shirt are fitting you well. A bad fitting jacket or dress shirt will show in the photos
  • Turtlenecks are always a bad idea, unless you are Steve Jobs, of course…
  • Your clothes should be pressed and looking new or like new for the photos
  • Please avoid very busy suit patterns and large lines or stripes
  • Blue/green/turquoise shirts/blouses or accents can help emphasize blue/green/hazel eyes

Male – What To Wear On The Shoot

  • The most standard business photo look is a suit jacket, shirt and a tie
  • The casual/relaxed business look is often associated with a jacket and a open shirt, dress shirt and tie with no jacket, or only dress shirt
  • Polo shirts could be a good look for some kinds of businesses. Make sure the polo shirt is in good condition and fits well
  • For a business casual look please bring colored shirts that are ideally darker than your own skin tone
  • Usually a white dress shirt on it own is a bad idea unless you’re planning to wear it under a jacket or sweater
  • You can bring few different suit jackets, few different shirt colors and ties so we can have different choices for the photo

Female – What To Wear On The Shoot

  • Please avoid big prints on clothes or busy patterns
  • Different necklines will change the apparent shape of your face. Bring a variety different shirts/blouses to see what works best
  • For a business casual look you can bring different colored blouses that are ideally darker than your skin tone
  • You can be stylish and fashionable, but please remember that the picture is about your face and not about your clothes or jewelry
  • Usually sleeveless tops or dresses can draw lots of attention to your shoulders and arms. Consider bringing items with a variety of different sleeves

Please remember to choose and wear clothes that make you feel comfortable. It’s best to select something that makes you look and feel good.

Jewelry For The Shoot

  • Keep your jewelry very simple – the smaller the better
  • Please avoid jewelry that will distract the camera from your face or one that looks dated
  • The business picture is about your face, not your jewelry that you own
  • Consider if facial piercings or multiple ear piercings are appropriate for where your photo will be displayed

What to Bring To The Shoot

  • Your previous headshots if you have some so we can improve
  • Few sample headshots that you like to help communicate the look that you want
  • Favorite Music  be it on iPod/MP3 player, phone, thumb-drive
  • Various sets of clothing (see above)
  • A good and positive attitude
  • Lip balm for your lips
  • Hair brush or a comb
  • Makeup and hair products that you prefer, especially if you have some sort of allergies

Makeup and Hair Tips

  • Photo makeup should be clean, minimal and look natural
  • If you wear a layer of translucent powder your face should appear flawless in the photographs. Shine disappears instantly and pores seem smaller and the skin looks even
  • Line lips before applying matte lipstick, then reline. Don’t overdo it. Dip a cotton bud in powder and run along lip line to prevent color from bleeding
  • Avoid shimmers or products with lots of sparkle or shine
  • Don’t get a new hair cut just before the shoot (you may want to let it grow-in a bit or get used to styling a new cut)
  • Do not try/use any new product on your hair, face or body the day before or few days before your shoot. In case you have a bad reaction to the product

Please Arrive With

  • Hair styled and makeup already applied (if not using makeup artist)

Maurie Gibson

maurieriver poem

A VOICE FROM THE RIVER, By Maurie Gibson

I was 12 years old in 1960, a princess living in an upper class Jewish suburb of not Beverly, but Cheviot Hills. A seventh grader at Palms Junior High I had the unique experience that year to attend school with kids from nearby “projects” in Culver City. I remember sitting at my desk in Miss Zucco’s homeroom class checking out the boys. There were the Cheviot kids, clean cut, Ivy league shirts, fresh from their Bar Mitzvahs. And there were the Mexicans – swarthy, greasy haired, smelling of cigarettes. Mexican girls wore ratted hair 4 inches high that hid razor blades for after school fights.

I liked the different kids. While all my friends were Jewish, I felt a kinship, a bond with the project kids. They were already grown up, some girls even having left school to have babies. I was still being treated like a child and I thought the project kids were smarter, knew more about life.

 It all changed the next year. Parents from Cheviot were irate that their children attended a mixed income level school. Some ordinance was passed and the boundaries of the school changed with the project kids going to Culver City schools while the Beverlywood kids were bussed over to Palms.

 Beverlywood was sort of on par with Cheviot but the homes were older and smaller. Suddenly Palms Jr. High was no longer a smorgasborg of cultures. Everybody looked like everybody else. I missed seeing how high the Mexican girls hair got teased and decided to rat my own hair into a beehive as a statement. But I didn’t stand out much. All my friends began to wear big hair too.

 I had an older sister who believed, like my mother, that all girls should be virgins and even after marriage stay a little virginly. My sister was not into rock and roll and my mother had no musical passion. I swung to, twisted, jerked and slow danced and loved it all, the music, the parties, the boys, making out. None of the women around me,. my mother, my aunts or grandmothers seemed to even be related to me. I would write in my diary that I thought I had been adopted. No one thought like me. Among my friends, I usually liked “different” girls, girls who made out with boys a lot, or funny, interesting girls. When I fell for a boy it was with passion. I knew the highs and lows of love at 13. I didn’t mind much that I couldn’t share feelings and agonies with my mother or sister. Keeping a diary seemed like all I ever needed.

 I saw my mother on the purple chaise lounge in her bedrooom most days when I came home from school. I would walk down the hall to my bedroom and glimpse her “resting”. She might murmur hello to me or “how was your day” but it was clear that I had merely disturbed her. It didn’t matter though because on the phone with my best friend I would talk for hours.

 My sister had gone away to school when I was in eighth grade to a University. My father, a ladies sportswear manufacturer, was terribly busy always with his business. I liked the excitement when he brought home buyers to entertain. That’s when the bar got opened up. They weren’t Jews, these buyers, but successful, single men and women like in the movies. My house had an energy when these people came in – a different beat to them – and I wanted to be a lot more like them then my parents.

 In 9th grade, things started to shift. For one thing my sister was coming home to marry a guy she had met at school. My father was busier then ever but he and my mother seeemed to be having a problem. I never saw tears or heard fights but their bedroom door was closed a lot. One night I got up to get some water and saw my father bedded down in the den alone. Something was definitely up. But nothing was said and I never asked anyhody anything.

My sister and her fiance came home and I thought they were beautiful, Kennedy-like, perfect. My sister had lost weight, wore eyeliner and smiled a lot. My about to be brother in law looked like Peter Lawford even though he was Jewish, from New York. I felt sure that this was a sign that I too would have the perfect husband someday, the perfect life. That we would all be like and look like President Kennedy and that the world would be our playground.

 It was the summer of ’64 when I began to feel awkward. I looked at the other girls on the beach with me. They looked incredibly free in their bikini’s. I, on the other hand, felt like a strange, blimp like creature in a one piece bathing suit. For one thing it was my hair. Most of the popular girls had straight hair, light hair. I had tight, almost frizzy wavy black hair for which I never forgave my father. His gene had carried over to me. My sister got my mother’s straight hair which made me eternally jealous. And then there was the problem of my breasts – they were large – a D cup by that time. I couldn’t wear cute little bikini tops because I was too self conscious. The biggest problem I battled was my weight. Plump, round, vuloptuous, I began to realize my life would be about dieting forever. And I loved to eat chocolate ice cream in a very serious way. In my bridesmaid’s dress, what I saw in the mirror at my sister’s wedding disgusted me.

 In early November 1964 I was in high school. I wore big purses and was once again happy to be in a more diverse school. We had colored kids, poor kids, famous kids, and there were more choices to be whoever we wanted to be. I wanted to be, more then anything, a Lorelle. Social clubs were the thing. If you were smart and got good grades, it was the Fidelts. If you were pretty and smart and ambitious, you went Sans Parelles. The Lorelles were named for Loreli, goddess of love and beauty, and they were what I considered the gorgeous, gonna marry successful guys, creme de la creme. I became a Lorelle and began to feel pretty. My weight was still plumpish but I was cute, wore my hair straight (after ironing it), and put on a snobbish attitiude. I knew how to be a bitch too.

 The day of the JFK assasination, a part of me died too. I remember being in the courtyard around 10:00 a.m. when we all had a “nutrition” break. When it was announced over the loud speaker that the President was dead, it was as if consciousness changed forever. We all slowed down, walked, talked, breathed slower. We walked as if we each carried a great and a heavy burden. Time didn’t stop, but the innocence stopped, the old system of life stopped. When we began to breathe again in a normal way, we felt differently, we were more focused and suspicious. There was anger in our shock. I stopped going to Lorelle meetings. And when I stood at the special place on the school yard with my club sisters, I felt ridiculous.

 My father slept on the den couch until my mother finally made her decision to not kick him out. He was on the verge, I gathered, of quitting the garment business. He couldn’t compete with the mini-skirt manufacturers, the juniors, the avante garde trends. My father at heart was a Jewish Dick Nixon, pro Viet Nam, pro old guard, and he didn’t have it to be flexible, to accept new fashion, new trends. For the first time money became an issue in my house and I thought I might not be able to go to college.

 In my senior year I would go to my room as usual, see my mother on her lounge, and not even get a courtesy hello. It was clear she was sleeping a lot. Wondering finally what that was about, one day when she was out shopping, I went into my parents bedroom. It was a normal thing for me to snoop. I liked going into my parents dresser drawers to find out who they were, what they hid. I found my fathers rubbers, my mother’s diaphram and that had been an exciting discovery. On that afternoon I found my mother’s Valium. In her top drawer I also discovered a note my father had written explaining how sorry he was that he’d had the affair but that nothing meant more to him then my mother, my sister and I.

 I stopped ratting my hair. I began to become friendly with a girl who wore no make up and long hair to her waist who listened to Bob Dylan and explained to me what the war was really about. My sister, after having two perfect children, filed for divorce.

 One Rosh Hoshana I stood outside Temple with a few friends and their parents. I was talking to nobody in particular when I mumbled something about how I wished I could understand more about what the Rabbi was saying. The father of one my friends, handsome and self confident, looked toward the curb at his new Mercedes and replied “What more is there to understand?”

I still loved to make out and fall in love. Boys though had to blond, light haired at least, just different looking and with a different energy then I had. All the other boys who were dark and looked like me felt like my brothers and I couldn’t comfortably kiss them or feel passion for a family member. I liked surfers although they preferred long blond haired girls with long legs. Music from Black performers still enraptured me. I thought the Beatles music was too juvenile, too pop sounding.

 I wasn’t ready for sex or pot but I was ready for change. I began going to Catholic mass. One Christmas, I brought a small tree into my bedroom and told my mother it was a Chanukah bush.

 My father and I becam even more estranged now that we were political opposites. There was always something scary about him, something mean and menacing too. I saw him accidently naked once and he looked like an ape to me, hairy and uncivilized. Worse, he didn’t seem to be fatherly. He earned money for us and treated us well to things but he had no real interest in me or my sister. He didn’t like to sit down, talk to me, ask me why I felt the way I did or what was on my mind. If I got a D in Math, he never questionned it. He seemed preoccupied with business or his women. The only time he seemed to care was when he got angry and his anger pushed us away.

 My sister’s world was changing in a way I didn’t understand. Why did she wait to have a family before growing? I didn’t understand why she was shattering her old life.

 I began to realize that Jesus, like me, rebelled. He saw the way things were at the time – corrupt and meaningless – and wanted more meaning, a real connection to life. I identified with him, and with Buddha and Zen masters and the new sounds I was hearing on the radio.

My mother didn’t sleep as much but it was like she had a part to play in something and she wasn’t giving that up. She would continue to be what had worked for her all her life. She would be naive and Pollyana like and have her husband and its accessories and look to those things to bolster her whenever depression engulfed her.

There was just enough money for me to attend college for a few years. I went far away to a small liberal arts school. I began to write stories and act in plays and have sex and work my way out of the Cheviot Hills mindset. I protested the war, battled male chauvinism. Phone conversations with my father became battlegrounds. I watched my parents grow old without understanding and I saw my sister go into unending therapies and analysis.

I remember I had taken acid one day and was sitting on a small hill overlooking the Hudson River. The LSD was just coming on, I was in a yoga position going into a psychelic visual playground. I felt beneath me my Jewish roots and above me I saw in the clouds the bearded, benevolent face of Christ. His voice came through to me from the river bed. The teaching spoke about peoples’ capacities, that we are all born with just so much we can do and carry and give. Some have large vessels and their capacities to give seem endless. Others, like my parents, have simple, smaller cups then I would have liked.

My father died when I was 25. I was unmarried, living alone, struggling for money and a creative life. On the afternoon of his funeral I drove through Cheviot Hills for a peek at our old house. Totally re-done and remodeled now, I parked my car across the street just to look and remember the way it used to look. A boy of about 12 emerged from the house. As the door opened I could see our old slate entry way still intact. The boy then stood on the front steps watching me. I could not take my eyes off him. He stood there as if protecting his house and his childhood. It’s as if he were telling me, let me live my life in the house, let me have my innocence. I like it here.

Wedding Planning Advice From Gibson Photo Pro

We provide the necessary wedding photography advices to wedding photographers and happy couples to help get by on the wedding day in excellent manner. The wedding day is a special day for couples and their loved ones families and if the wedding photographers are inexperienced and don’t know how to deal with different situations, the whole event could easily spoil. You will always want to have memories captured in a professional manner for this big day and you should never compromise on the experience and services of a wedding photographer.

Professional wedding photographers should be well prepared for the whole event, confidently decide on several positions that they will photograph during the wedding and decide about the true costs of their services. They should definitely have an emergency backup plan in advance to deal with weather related issues and gear failures. While capturing shots in its professional mode, you should turn off the sound of your camera and possibly the shutter sound to best record the kisses and the wedding vows of the event. The experienced photographer should switch off the sound when recording the very important shots like the formal conduct of wedding prayers.

We strongly believe that it is the responsibility of the wedding photographer to even shot small details of the wedding. You should never leave any event and given importance to the photographed rings, back of dresses, shoes of bridge and groom, flowers they present to each other, table settings, menus and the humor of families, friends and couples with each other. Every little event has its importance on this big day and helps to give the end album an extra dimension and perfection of stories. Experienced wedding photographers always get themselves up to date of latest trends in wedding photography, events and news that are published on national and international newspapers and magazines.

In conducting this event, keep in mind everything is important, even some small things are important that you can photograph on the day of wedding. You must invest in the latest equipment, if possible two cameras by borrowing it from other photographers and you can setup different lens to record several view points on the big day. You must have extra cameras and equipment with you in case of one camera is not working properly you must use the second one to record the events. Always try to record and shot events with wide angle lens in tight spaces especially before the ceremony, in the preparation stage of the wedding event and the final stages of the wedding event. It will be handy if you have large lens with 200mm capacity, but it depends on you what capacity of lens you use. We normally prefer to use 70mm to 200mm lens on this special event. In order to best perform your services, you must have a second wedding photographer as a backup source for this event. It is always advisable to capture as much events as possible during the ceremony and speeches. It will allow you to capture formal shots and other candid shots with best resolutions. Another important tip regarding wedding photography is that you should be bold and decisive in performing your photography and capturing several events and functions of the wedding ceremony. Sometimes you need to be bold and brave in capturing a shot, but sometimes you should be very careful to perform your services according to the emotions and preferences of couples and their families. In a ceremony, you should try to move around four to five locations and try to coincide with the songs and other musical arrangements.

The Basics Of Head Shot Photography

Actually the thought and planning that the world renowned headshot professional  photographer Peter Hurley invests into creating  unique and amazing headshots isn’t basic at all. As a former professional model turned into a recognised working photographer, Peter Hurley knows exactly what it is like to be the face in front of a camera and on the other end – behind it. He has used his experience as a professional model to perfect his craft and was kind enough to share with us his insights into creating his signature images with us via a online seminar hosted at B&H Photo Video and this seminar was certainly a standout. Even after two hours watching the seminar is interesting, thoughtful and very informative:

Professional Photographer Peter Hurley is certainly capable of keeping things laid back and moving along. If you’re into improving your headshot photography skills, please make sure to watch the seminar video in full. There are countless and very rich bits of info spread throughout the video that can certainly help you progress as a professional photographer.

Here are some of the basic things to remember when photographing people’s headshots:

  • Don’t over complicate things – The only thing that matters in the photograph should be the subjects head. Photograph just only one person at a time. If you are not shooting against a solid color background, throw the background of focus so the eye is naturally drawn to the head.
  • Crop is King – Crop very selectively, it is better to crop out the top of the head than crop at the neck and shoulders, much like the photo below.
  • Rule of thirds – Always keep the eyes above the center line.
  • Remember to give direction! – It’s your responsibility as a photographer to make sure your photographs look the best the possibly can. This often means directing your subjects so that they are in a flattering pose.
  • Lighting – Peter Hurley uses Kino Flo continuos lighting on the photo subject and 2 Alien Bee’s strobes to light the background. He then throws in a kicker light  highlights. Hurley recommends using a square setup for women and banking lights 2-4ft on either side when photographing men.
lighting for headshot photography

Here is a suggestion to the ideal lighting setup for a stunning professional headshot photography.

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One last essential piece of information that Peter Hurley said during the seminar can be said of any style of photographer. To quote him:

“A professional is at his best regardless.”